Not All Failures Are Failures

You had your heart set on something.  It happened just as you imagined.  Then day one, you realize that thing you wanted is no longer there.  It’s no longer right.  It no longer looks like you imagined early on or felt the way it did initially.  What happened?  How did this failure happen?  How will things go from this point forward?

We’ve all had these types of experiences.  If you haven’t, you will.  Give it time.  For those of us who have had the pleasure of failure, we typically can look back and see that we are in a different space now and we overcame that situation.  Now some of you are still stuck on me calling your failure pleasant.  Maybe I’m a masochistic.  I don’t know, but I am one of those people who appreciate the unpleasant times because they are usually followed by very pleasant ones.

A few years ago, I spoke to a friend who divorced.  They tried to describe what they were going through.  All they kept clearly repeating was that they felt like a failure.  They did not know what to tell their family and friends about the demise of the union.  They thought that people would blame them personally or pick sides.  At that point, I could only listen because I could not fully relate.  However, their words of failure suck deep within. Continue reading Not All Failures Are Failures