How old is your oldest friendship? I’m not asking about the connection between you and your mother or even your sibling whom you may consider your best friend. I’m asking about a true friend. Some of you may have met one of your friends during infancy through your parents like I did with one of my friends, Keywa. Now in our 40s, we’ve actually maintained a true, life-long friendship. There were years during childhood where we lost touch (after she accidentally broke my toe by dropping a weight on it), but we reconnected again in junior high. Boy do we have stories we could share, but I plead the Fifth on terms that it may incriminate us. Although we have lived in different states for about 20 years, we still communicate fairly frequently. We may go months without saying one word, but then we’ll connect and start off on the last conversation we had as if time stood still. Besties? It’s more like a sisterhood to me.
While many of you can probably relate to having a friend-like-sibling, some of you can also relate to having a friend that you wouldn’t mind if they fell off the side of the earth and were never heard from again. Yet, sometimes we hang on to friendships that died a long time ago out of loyalty, pity, or guilt. Sometimes we simply outgrow people and that’s ok. You don’t have to have a major un-friending ceremony. You can simply move on with less frequency in contact. However, there are some situations where you may feel the need for the ceremony like that little, elderly lady on that Geico commercial where she tells her friends to like the pictures on her actual wall in her living room and then tells one of the ladies that she unfriends her only to be told, “That’s not how any of this works.”
In asking several real friends how they know when it’s time to end a friendship, I received a wealth of responses, many of which were very similar in nature. Continue reading I Unfriend You