Dodging Bullets

Like you, I have a few friends with whom we discuss exes and what we know of their current lives.  A few have stated that they saw their exes on social media sites and they realized that they dodged a bullet based on what they represented on the sites.  Although we know that most people post their best selves, these dudes clearly didn’t get the memo.  We laugh reflecting on how hurt we were when the relationships ended, but in hind sight; we’re elated. Continue reading Dodging Bullets

Seeking Story Submissions for my new book


Have you experienced a bad relationship that you eventually overcame and ended up learning valuable lessons?  If so, then I’m looking for you.  I’m seeking true-life stories for my upcoming book entitled “Lessons from Losers in Love.”  If you’re interested in submitting your story, click the following link to find out more about the submission process.  Also, “like” and “share” so people in your circle can submit if they are interested as well.  Thanks in advance.


Understanding Why Things Didn’t Work Out

I want _______ and I want it now!  Really?  Good luck with that.  Life is usually not dictated by what you want and when.  It just doesn’t work that way.

How many times have you wanted something sooooooo bad that you couldn’t imagine life without this thing and ended up not getting it?  Imagine that.  You lived.  Even still, you probably ended up finding out that you were better off without it in the first place. Continue reading Understanding Why Things Didn’t Work Out

Facebook Life Lessons

People use Facebook and other social media sites for various reasons. I use it because of the ease to connect with people I already know all over the world (no new friends). Some people criticize it, but steady stalk folks without any comments or likes. Some use it to build an audience for themselves just for attention.  However, I’ve learned a lot from the site. What I’ve learned most is we are all different. Some of you just said, “Duh!” That’s ok, but it’s real. I know an eclectic group of people. Some work retail for minimum wages and some are CEOs. Some barely graduated high school, while some have several degrees. Some have household incomes of less than $35k, but own homes, while others make over 6 figures yet can’t afford a home in their area. Some singles profess they are happily living the single life yet secretly hoping for love. Some couples fake their happiness in public while they are actually just tolerating each other because letting go wouldn’t look right. All in all, we are different. What works for you may not work for me and vice versa. I’m cool with that. Can you be? Continue reading Facebook Life Lessons

Adversity = Life lessons =Growth

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No one wants to go through hard times. They’re uncomfortable, they take us out of our character, and sometimes they can even be down-right embarrassing. If we wallow in those moments for-what-seems-like-ever, we don’t learn from the experience. We may even re-live the experience over and over and then wonder why we keep having the same situation occur again and again. However, if we reflect on that situation after we’ve come to the realization that, yes, it did happen to us, then we can focus on the lesson we have to learn and figure out how to avoid it in the future, resulting in growth.
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