“Lessons from Losers in Love” is Here!

I just released my latest project, a book entitled “Lessons from Losers in Love” on September 13th, one day after my 40-somethingth birthday.  This 230 page book is a compilation of stories from 22 people from all over the world (yes, I got international submissions) about loves they lost and the lessons they learned in the long run.  The stories come from a very diverse group – men, women, disabled, Christian, Mormon, a farmer, a politician, different orientations, different ethnicities, etc.  I’m very proud of the diversity represented, but I’m most proud for the universality of us all overcoming adversity and learning from those experiences.  Anyway, if you are looking for some new reading material over the weekend, I’d appreciate the support.  The book is available on Amazon.com.  Thanks in advance for your support.




Who taught you to love?


Sometimes anti-role models are who we need to follow or not-follow.  In this case, these people come in handy.  Raise your hand if you remember witnessing a volatile relationship – be it physical, loud arguments, abuse, cheating and/or disrespect.  Let those other people’s experiences be your lesson.  Personally, I remember looking to my anti-role models to help guide me through life.  I saw that unprotected sex resulted in teen pregnancy in which the boy usually was not around. I learned that little education often led to dead in jobs with low pay. The life experiences that I witnessed of others helped me majorly.  I’m not sure where I would be if I had not learned those lessons that I learned from pure observation.

What does love have to do with learning life lessons?  A heck of a lot.  Just about all of our beliefs come from experiences that happened during our childhood.  We either embrace those lessons as we become adults or we do the complete opposite of what we were taught because for whatever reason, it does not agree with our souls.  For example, you probably have the same political affiliation as those who raised you.  You probably have the same religion as well.  Why?  Because you were taught that this particular way of thinking is correct. The same is true with love. Continue reading Who taught you to love?