I don’t care what age you are, someone will tell you when you need to do something according to what “they” say. “They” say you have to wait three months in a relationship before you have sex. “They” say you have to be married before 30 if you are a woman or something is wrong with you. “They” say if a man doesn’t propose to you within two years, he never will so dump him and don’t waste your time. “They” always have something to say. The funny thing is, “they” usually never followed any of that advice and are usually trying to Geppetto your situation.
I must admit, sometimes I’ve followed the relationship advice “they” gave intermittingly throughout my life. Often times, I’ve thought that relationships failed because I didn’t follow the rules. I remember reflecting that on my long term relationships and I found that in all of those, I actually followed that three month waiting period rule. It wasn’t like we’d be hot and heavy and I’d stop and look at the calendar and tell dude that he had a little longer to wait. No, it was nothing like that. Instead, we actually got to know each other during those months and when the time felt right, it just so happened to be months later. I also realized that the person’s true self didn’t show until after around three months, because you can only front for so long. In that reflection, I also noted that in relationships that didn’t have that three month period, those relationships usually ended within three months. Hmmm, maybe there is something to this waiting thing.