Stay in Your Lane, Literally. Boundaries and Beyond.

I don’t want your dog jumping on me to meet me at the door.  Sorry, I just don’t.  I don’t care how “friendly” it may be or if it “just wants to play.”  Keep your dog out of my space.  Some were just offended by my statement, but that’s fine.  When you come to my house, I don’t unleash my children and have them jump on you, sniff your legs, or attempt to lick your face.  Yes, it’s the same thing.

See, boundaries apply to every aspect of our lives.  If you allow your pet to violate a personal space boundary without thinking twice about it, you may allow other boundaries to be violated as well.  Don’t get me wrong. I’m not saying that everyone who has a dog doesn’t know how to respect boundaries.  Just stay with me.    Continue reading Stay in Your Lane, Literally. Boundaries and Beyond.

Not All Failures Are Failures

You had your heart set on something.  It happened just as you imagined.  Then day one, you realize that thing you wanted is no longer there.  It’s no longer right.  It no longer looks like you imagined early on or felt the way it did initially.  What happened?  How did this failure happen?  How will things go from this point forward?

We’ve all had these types of experiences.  If you haven’t, you will.  Give it time.  For those of us who have had the pleasure of failure, we typically can look back and see that we are in a different space now and we overcame that situation.  Now some of you are still stuck on me calling your failure pleasant.  Maybe I’m a masochistic.  I don’t know, but I am one of those people who appreciate the unpleasant times because they are usually followed by very pleasant ones.

A few years ago, I spoke to a friend who divorced.  They tried to describe what they were going through.  All they kept clearly repeating was that they felt like a failure.  They did not know what to tell their family and friends about the demise of the union.  They thought that people would blame them personally or pick sides.  At that point, I could only listen because I could not fully relate.  However, their words of failure suck deep within. Continue reading Not All Failures Are Failures

Security

Do you have life insurance?  Do you have a will?  Do you get regular checkups?  Have you made any provisions for what ifs and inevitables?

We all have different paths in life despite where we come from.  We can grow up in the same environment, with the same beliefs, and still end up with different outlooks on life and completely different lifestyles.  What does not change is the fact that we all will experience one thing for certain – death.

Someone of you just felt a twinge in your stomach.  You’re mad you even opened this piece.  Death is the last thing you wanted to think about, especially your own, but let’s be honest with ourselves to make this topic less taboo.

When I first got married, I became obsessed with thinking of my husband’s death. Continue reading Security