Don’t Change. I Love Everything about You, Except THAT…

Love. I love it!  I think most people love love too.  That’s why everyone seeks relationships that make them happy because they want to be loved.  We’ve all heard that we can only make ourselves happy.  Yeah, yeah, yeah; but having someone who brightens our day can make things feel a whole lot better.

Every year there are publications that come out with a list of the sexiest or most beautiful people on the planet.  Many of us look at those lists and think, “You’ve got to be kidding me.  They are not even cute.”  I’ve wondered a time or two about who are the people who came up with these lists and was there anyone else who had to give approval because the chosen ones baffled me.

I believe I was in 5th grade when I realized that everyone has different tastes.  There were some new students in school who came from different South American countries all at one time.  I don’t recall why we had a sudden influx of Latino students, but in my southern town in Georgia, we were only used to seeing blacks and whites, so we were mesmerized.  I remember distinctly that a lot of girls liked this one particular new boy named Mario Lopez (no, not THE Mario Lopez).  Yet, some girls said he was not cute.    “How can you not think he’s cute?”  I remember asking a friend.  “He’s just not,” she replied.  It was at that moment that I realized the differences of attraction. Continue reading Don’t Change. I Love Everything about You, Except THAT…


holding old mess - -- USED

I probably shouldn’t be the one to write about this.  Honestly, I have a teensy, little problem in this area.  Ok, I have a big problem in this area. That’s more like the truth.  That’s what made me ask my internet buddies if they seek revenge or simply forgive when they are wronged.   Believe it or not, every last one said they forgive.  Somebody’s lying.

I don’t seek revenge, but boy do I have a hard time forgiving.  In hindsight, I think I actually do forgive.  I just don’t forget. EVER!  I’ve been small-time wronged and big-time wronged.  Regardless of the size, I WILL NOT FORGET.  I may still be cool with you, but believe me, every time I see you, I think of what you did.  I’ve had people who borrowed small items from me decades ago.  Yep, I’m still thinking about it.  Don’t laugh at me.  I’m human.  Continue reading Forgiveness

Baby, You Don’t Have to Work Anymore

“I wish I was rich so I wouldn’t have to work!”  Most of us have said this at least once in our adult lives unless we inherited wealth or were given a “small loan of a million dollars” from a relative to start a corporation.  However, money does not necessarily make you happy, as the cliché goes.  We usually counter that argument with, “I’ll buy some happiness” or even, “Well, let me how find out.”  The truth is money may provide us the opportunity to get more stuff, but will that stuff fulfill our souls?  Will we decide that we are now bored with stuff and then find something else to complain about that we wish we had?

I know many women who say they would love to find a partner that could provide for them so that they did not have to work. But in all honesty, if the situation presented itself, would they really not work?  As I typically do, I asked some friends (male and female) what they would do if their partner told them that they would no longer have to work because the partner made enough money to support them and their lifestyle.  I received a pretty equal amount of yes’s and no’s (is that how you write that?), but the reasons varied quite a bit.  Continue reading Baby, You Don’t Have to Work Anymore