Holding on to Nothing

Holding on to people just so that someone (anyone) will be in that position until someone or something better comes along is not healthy. It’s perfectly fine to be you without the validation of or connection with someone else. You’re enough.  I know. I know.  Some of you reading this right now may be thinking that’s easier said than done because it’s not easy being alone.  No, it’s not.  I don’t want to minimize the effects of being by yourself. Certain people may be annoyingly asking if you’ve found someone yet.  Some family members (usually the closest ones, like parents) may even ask what is wrong with you or how come you can’t keep a mate.  The pressure is real.  However, even though you want to avoid those pesky questions or even the reality of wondering what others must be thinking of you or saying about you behind your back; still, it’s better to wait for the right person than to take any ole soul that comes into your life.

I’ve known plenty people who have held on to situationships because it was just easier in their mind.  Huh? What’s a situationship?  Oh, ok.  I’ll back up a bit.  A situationship is kinda, sorta, a little bit like a relationship.  Usually, one person thinks they’re in a relationship while the other is just going with the flow.  They may do or say something nice and you think “Aww, he (or she) loves me so much,” based on that one comment or action BUT we ignore all the other hundreds of words or actions that depict the reality. That other person may be in a real relationship with someone else, may constantly disrespect us, may use us for our bodies or money, and/or may never reach out to us first just to check on us.

Let them just text us first though. Ohhhhhh my!  Yep, they love us! We take it all to the extreme. We want to drop everything just for that wonderful human who sent us a text. A text.  Yep, it seems ridiculous when you think about it, but it’s a reality for many.  Any piece of another person will do.  Why?  Are we so desperate that we accept anyone who pays us attention even when we know good and well that person is not the person we are supposed to be with?  Maybe we are just that desperate for affection.

Today’s challenge is to check your status.  Are you in a relationship or a situationship?  If it’s the latter, ask yourself why is this acceptable to you and how will you change the situation.  Lastly, ask yourself if you believe you are enough.

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