First of all Russell has been my unrealistic, cougar crush in my head for a few years because he’s intelligent, he consistently does volunteer work at the children’s hospital, and he just “seems” like a good man. I’m sure Ciara saw many more realistic qualities which is why she choose him and especially why she is comfortable bringing him around her son. Since their courtship became public, I’ve seen all kinds of articles implying she’s being vengeful towards her child’s father, Future. Really? Was he being vengeful by dating all the other women he dated after he broke up with each of his other children’s mothers? Why should a mother have to put her needs for companionship on pause just because she is not with the father of her child? Meanwhile, the father is free to be with any woman (or multiple women) whenever he feels. Should she hide her relationship so she won’t upset the child and/or the child’s father? Not at all.Double standards are a mess. I can see not having your child meet some thug dude or several dudes if you have several dudes in rotation, but by all means, our children need the exposure of more positive male role models. I think the difference is on how they are presented and how many are presented. Equally important, the father should not be upset about their child spending time with another male, especially when that male is doing something positive with that child…and super especially if that father is not.
Men, if you are on your game as a father, you should not have fear of another man taking over your role. You should be confident in our own parenting skills to know that another man cannot replace you. However, if you’re not fulfilling your role, then yes, you might have a case for being thought of as replaceable.
If the mother of your child(ren) does not let you see your child(ren), then there are courts to make sure she complies. If you are not willing to go to court to fight for your rights, then that’s on you. If you are unwilling to travel to see your child(ren), that is on you (especially if they live in the same town). If you allow your ex to control your parenting time, something is wrong…with you, not her (although she may actually be crazy like you say). I’ve seen three men fight like crazy to get their parenting rights. Not only did they get their rights, they ended up with full custody. Again, if you’re not willing, don’t go talking mess about your child(ren)’s mother. Step up daddy.