The One

We always hear about finding THE ONE.  Some of us think every time we meet a new person that we have a mutual attraction with that they might be THE ONE.   What about THE ONE that got away? THE ONE is always THE ONE until the relationship ends and we can’t believe we wasted our time.  What?  I thought they were THE ONE?  What happened?  How did that change?  Continue reading The One



How many of us experienced something and afterwards realized that there were signs right in front of us all along that we completely missed because we were too blind to see them? I remember working with a child who was being sexually assaulted by their parent. After the horrific acts came to light, the staff and I were sick re-living exchanges that were probably clues that we blatantly missed. If it had been another parent, those same clues may have stood out like a Black man at a Klan rally, but we were blinded by the perceptions we were led to believe. Continue reading Hindsight

It’s Not Them. It’s You.



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I want the perfect relationship. Yep, I said it. (Ok, perfect for me). I want someone to call me the first thing they do in the morning just to say hello and wish me well. I want to wake up one morning and find my love smiling peacefully staring at me, as he was waiting excitedly for me to wake. I want to go to a function and overhear my love bragging about me and what I bring to his life. I want to feel so secure in my relationship that I can trust him wholeheartedly in every situation that he will make the right choice that won’t end up hurting either of us. I want him to thank the universe and all our previous failed relationships for bringing us together. I want it like that. Continue reading It’s Not Them. It’s You.